New dads need support for their adjustment to fatherhood just much as mothers do. Today’s fathers often do not have a role model to help guide them during this profound change in identity, primary relationship and responsibility and therefore feel a bit at a loss. Because of this, they often look to their spouse for direction, but this can leave them feeling one-down compared to their child’s mother or like ‘the odd man out’ and struggling to find their place and role in their new family. Hard-wired gender stereotypes can kick in making things even more confusing. Becoming a parent can bring unexpected and complicated feelings such as irritability, sadness, anxiety, anger and withdrawal. If you are experiencing these kinds of feelings, you are not alone. 1 in 10 dads experience postnatal depression and half of dads whose partner experiences postpartum depression develop postnatal depression themselves. Moreover, dad’s whose spouse is suffering from a postpartum mood or anxiety disorder is 50% more likely to develop postnatal depression himself. Your baby needs both of you. Postnatal depression is highly treatable. There is no need to suffer any longer. Help is available.
Dads have unique role to protect—both their partners and their children. One way to describe a new father’s role is that it is his primary job to “hold” mom while it is his spouses primary job to “hold” the baby.
The central focus of wellness involves learning how to take care of yourself in the context of learning how to care for and bond with your baby as well as attend to the central relationship in your life. This is a tall order for new parents and takes time—often more time than any of us would like. Together we will discover the right combination of self-care ingredients for you including:
- Social Support
- Proper Nutrition